Let’s Be Honest: We’re Already Dating Our Phones

“Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike.” - J.K. Rowling

2 min. read

Yo. I just saw Her. It’s cray. It’s powerfully well-written and brings up a lot of thoughts about how we might relate to technology and one another in the future. But it also made me think a lot about how we relate to technology and one another right now. If you have a smart phone and you’ve seen Her, you’ve likely had a lot of these thoughts already.

It’s hard to convince myself that we’re not already dating our phones.

Our phones are with us when we eat, sleep, drink, and, in my case, shower (Playing me tunes. I like singing in the shower — shoot me.). They change the way we see the world, tell us about news and events, entertain us when we’re bored. We are attached at the hip (literally), notice when we’re not together, can’t spend a night without one another.

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If we’re down, or feeling lonely, we turn to our phone and the little red numbers that it possesses to pick us up. And our brain gets a little shot of oxytocin, the same chemical it gets when we physically hug someone. Great.

Have you ever been out and had your phone drop below 10% battery life? Holy shit. That feeling is more intense than most of the emotions my real-life relationships evoke on a daily basis.

Now, I’ve never had sex with my phone. That’s true. We gotta draw the line somewhere. But I’m totally dating my phone.

And I’m thinking I might want to break things off before it gets too serious.